{"id":442,"date":"2010-09-09T01:00:14","date_gmt":"2010-09-08T21:00:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blogblog\/?p=442"},"modified":"2010-09-09T22:23:10","modified_gmt":"2010-09-09T18:23:10","slug":"going-into-letting-go-of-mamma","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/2010\/09\/going-into-letting-go-of-mamma\/","title":{"rendered":"Departures: Letting Go of Mamma"},"content":{"rendered":"
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The soft light of Irene Loling Sarabia Lampe <\/p><\/div>\n

As many of us have experienced, or are presently experiencing, it is not easy watching our parents get older.\u00a0 It’s not easy for them either.\u00a0 Remembering my weaving teacher, Jennie Thlunaut’s words back in 1985 when she was 95:\u00a0 “…don’t get too old!\u00a0 Don’t get too old!”\u00a0 As she was trying to get up off the couch, “You cannot get up,…or walk anymore!”\u00a0 As she looked out at all of her students her thick glasses made her look like an owl:\u00a0 “…you cannot see anymore…!”\u00a0 She struggled with her false teeth flapping in her mouth:\u00a0 “…you cannot even talk anymore…!”<\/p>\n

Two nights ago my sister and I were in sitting with our mother, Irene Loling Sarabia Lampe.\u00a0 At one point, Mom said the same thing as Jennie.\u00a0 She also said she is getting tired of living and just wants to go now.\u00a0 We don’t blame her.\u00a0 Since our father passed in December 2008, our mother has sorely missed him; this of course, has made her living a little bit less palatable.\u00a0 They were married almost 54 years.<\/p>\n

My mother was the youngest in her family.\u00a0 After the passing of her brother Robert Sarabia and her sister Sue Belarde over 10 years ago, she remarked that she was the only one left in her family; she felt very alone.\u00a0\u00a0 Yet, just a year before the passing of our father, my parents got to experience the birth of their first great-grandchild, Elizabeth Deanna Hope.\u00a0 Then 6 months later, they met their 2nd grand-daughter, Violet Sol Hudson.\u00a0 I hadn’t seen that kind of happiness since my own children were born.\u00a0 My mother will meet the next grand-daughter, Amelie Soleil Haas next month as she will be here for a two-week visit with her parents.\u00a0 We look forward to the celebration.<\/p>\n

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My Mamma naps and dreams of another time and place where she is no longer slow, bent and in pain<\/p><\/div>\n

Out of the sky blue, my mother asked me when I’m going to cut my hair.\u00a0 I told her “after you are gone..”\u00a0 She curtly replies “Why are you going to wait until AFTER I am gone!?\u00a0 I want to see it now!\u00a0 I want to see all the curls you once had when you were a little babe…!”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

As many of us have experienced, or are presently experiencing, it is not easy watching our parents get older.\u00a0 It’s not easy for them either.\u00a0 Remembering my weaving teacher, Jennie Thlunaut’s words back in 1985 when she was 95:\u00a0 “…don’t get too old!\u00a0 Don’t get too old!”\u00a0 As she was trying to get up off […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[19,55],"tags":[64,63],"class_list":["post-442","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-honoring-others","category-family-friends-relatives","tag-departures","tag-irene-loling-sarabia-lampe"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/442","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=442"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/442\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":459,"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/442\/revisions\/459"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=442"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=442"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.clarissarizal.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=442"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}